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Commit To Doing One Hard Thing

October 7th, 2014

What is something that you are wanting or needing to do, but you’re not doing it because it’s hard? You are afraid. Afraid you will fail. Afraid you will disappoint yourself, or others. Afraid you’ll look like a fool. Afraid it’s not a good idea. Afraid (insert your reason or fear here).

Name it. Then, do it. TODAY. I dare you… I would love for you to comment on what it is you’re going to finally do, and report back here so we know you did it. And I thank you in advance for doing so. The rest of us will learn from, and be inspired, by you.

I would never ask you to do anything I am not willing to do. So I’m going to do it too. For the record, I’m going to give up my cell phone on the weekends for 30 days. Specifically, I’m going to turn off my cell phone at 6pm on Friday evenings, and not turn it back on until 8am on Mondays. I’ll do this for the next 4 weekends. It’s a start. This is hard because I value connectivity and do quite a bit of sharing via the device that is my cell phone. In other words, I use it for good, and I am effective at not letting it suck my time. However, what I do allow it to do is distract me. It divides my attention.

When one of my sons is talking to me and I’m taking a photo or reading Brain Pickings on my phone in the morning, my multitasked attention bothers me. I’m tired of my attention being divided, and am grateful that I’m at choice about doing something about it!

Clay Shirky, author of Cognitive Surplus, and Here Comes Everybody, and professor of new media at NYU, says when he asks students to turn off their cell phones during class, “it’s as if someone has let fresh air into the room. The conversation brightens.” (See this article –– it’s a fascinating and worthwhile read for anyone looking to be more present in this time of technology-enabled multitasking.)

I want to move toward undivided attention, and this is how I will start to accomplish it. I encourage you to hold me accountable. (Just please don’t “patrol” me – simply support me. I will do the same for you)

Thanks, and good luck!

What Are You Waiting For?

May 24th, 2012

It’s hard to sign up for something that has the potential to change your life. I know because I’ve done it many times.

I also know it’s hard because right now I’m trying to compel others to sign up, and I’m not having an easy time of it. Which — I’m guessing — means I have prospects right where I want them: in the realization that what they’re considering has the potential to rock their world.

By the way, in my humble opinion and experience, it’s often harder to sign up than to do the thing you’re signing up for.

My mission at Epic Life (as your coach, or not as your coach) is to dare you to live as if you’re dying — to live each day as if it counts. Because each day does. None of knows how much time we have. I have a friend who died suddenly from an aneurysm at the age of 52 last October. It happens. (Lori was a mother, wife and grandmother, and a terrific friend to many. She lived life to the fullest better than anyone I know, and she continues to be an inspiration to all who knew her.)

You make each day count by living on purpose. An Epic Life is not a perfect life, but a life that’s lived on purpose.

Your life is your story. Contrary to what we often tell ourselves, we are at choice. We get to create our own stories. To create yours, you’ll have to go off-trail. My wish is to support others in going off-trail, so that they may discover what’s there.

Living an Epic Life is signing up for charting your own course, where the going will often be difficult, and the outcome uncertain.

What will you get in exchange? Discovery of your best life – an Epic Life.

If your current life is not your best, what are you waiting for? Serious and important question, this is.

What are you afraid of?

April 7th, 2012

When I want to commit to something — a change, small or big — and I don’t, it’s almost always because I’m afraid. Afraid of failing. Afraid of making a fool out of myself. Afraid of falling short or disappointing myself or others. Afraid of being uncomfortable. Afraid of hurting others. The list goes on.
What are you not committing to, and what’s keeping you from committing to it?
I would love for you to share your response to this question in the comments section.
Thank you in advance.